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Date story:
I’m not so sure if I should be sharing my business like this but maybe there is a lesson to be learned some where in all of this.

A while back I took out a friend that is kind of special to me. We never really dated or dialed the booty call number or the FWB thang but we did have that sexual tension and bragging about who would put it on who… As a Scorpio I have my little skills and talents that goes unmatched by others plus my ego to match helps as well. I try not to boast and brag to much or push a situation to a level where I’m not willing to commit to the following actions.

So one night I take my lady friend to a party that my peoples are throwing not as my date but as a friend with other friends. Of course we are dancing, drinking, flirting and everything else. Plus lining up work for after the party or another time. (should I define work? or will everyone get what I mean?) Because she is not the only one I’m flirting with and I know she’s flirting with the other guys in the party.  I continue making my moves shaking hands with all the right people and narrowing down the potential work for the night.

This bad Korean girl and I mean BAD! She was ready too and her friend too. I’m not sure if it would have went down that way but I’ll never know. After the party was just about over I was in a position where I had to drop off my car poolies. Damn but I’m not a ass so I talked with Korean girl to arrange the meet for when I dropped everyone off.

Now old girl that is supposed to be friend is all touchy feely in the back sit while my man rides in the front. Pulling on my ears, rubbing on my neck and once she in the front seat to be dropped of next her hand are all up and down the kid’s thighs in the crotch and everythang. We pull up to here place and we make out something heavy and I’m losing track of time.  My Korean lady is calling and just when I think its over and about to get to moving on she dives in like she’s about to blow the kids dome up and I’m ready for it!   But wait she just opens up my pants then lets her seat back strips off her stretchy pants and goes in on herself!

I mean full blown masturbation.

In my mind I know I got to get this into the house and I do and we are back to making out in the door to the living room couch. I got the key at the pearly gates of Venus trying to make the key fit.  I find the right keyhole and the key is just about no the key is in not all the way but enough! With a deep gasp ole girls sobers up, wakes up, or catches wind of whats about to happen and digs her nails into the back of my neck and says “No Reem you can’t be fuckin me; not like this” WTF! I’m in you! Now is not time to be saying no! I’m in you; not all the way but still in you can I finish?

Well I didn’t say anything like that but I thought it as she went into a emotional spill about whatever. I understand NO and even being intoxicated but I don’t think anyone is ever so intoxicated that they would just masterbate in the front seat of the drivers car then non verbally invite them into the house for more foreplay, let the guy get you undressed and ready to fuck…

Please if its not your intention to go all the way that night or any night please pump your breaks at the car door or the house door! I’m a good dude and take pride in that but WTF if I was just some asshole this could have ended badly! This shit wasn’t even really a date it was some shit that happened. Kind of like Biggie “I got a story to tell”

I’m a good catch   Lots of us are.

But I’ve seen and done some things that would never get me a good man!

Ladies, if you want a decent guy, you gotta be a decent girl.

Here are five things NOT to do….

1. Don’t get drunk in front of a guy.

Pretty self explanatory, right?  But why do so many girls get sloppy-wasted in front of a guy?  If you’re on a date and drinks are involved, pace yourself!!!  One, or two drinks MAX.  And if he’s gonna buy you drinks, then he better buy you food too.

See my post:  When It’s time to Go Home, You Got to Get the F*** Out

Nuff Said!

2. Don’t offer to pay.

I’m sorry, but why do girls offer to pay on the first or even second date?  I would never even offer, because what if a guy takes you up on that offer?  It would be a super red flag if he did.  But who cares?  Don’t even go there!

It’s not a woman’s place to pay for dinner or drinks. If you offer and he says “yes”, it’s your fault!

3. Don’t accept a date invitation by text!

OK, when a guy texts “hi, hello…”, that’s fine.  But if he asks you out via text-message, DO NOT ACCEPT!  Yes, times are-a-changin’, but this one is a no-brainer.  I’ve had a handful of guys try to ask me out on a date via text, and I can’t help but think to myself, “Damn, is he too lazy to call me to make plans?”

When a girl accepts a text-message invitation, I think it sends a message to a guy that it’s ok to be lazy.

That’s just my humble opinion

4. Don’t talk about money.

I won’t ever let a guy take me into a conversation about money.  Trust me, so many guys have tried to lead me into that subject, but I back out without hesitation. WHY?  Because how much money a woman makes is NONE of a guy’s business.

I’ll write more on this subject later, but for now, just know that if a guy is prying into your financial life, it’s a TOTAL red flag.

Letting him into your financial situation is like givin up the “goods” too soon, if you know what I mean.

5. Don’t act like a hoe.

How many of us have made this mistake?  I won’t say if I have or not, ha ha! Acting like a hoe entails MANY things.

What’s on the list?  Givin it up on the first date, booty calls, being too easy in general.

If you have self respect, then demand the same from the guy!

What is it about this city that is so non-committal?

I’m noticing a trend here. Ok, it’s not a trend. It’s a lifestyle.

Yes, people here are free-thinking and alternative. They go against the grain in so many aspects of life. But when it comes to commitment, it feels like men (and women!) run like Bubonic Plague is coming.

Prime example…

I met someone online (Don’t want to mention the website, but it is one of the most popular dating websites out there). We liked each other, got along perfectly, and had been seeing each other on and off for the past year and a half. But in all of that time, that casual complacency set in. Finally, it came to the point where I said (paraphrasing) “Look, no more casual dating for us. It’s either time to commit, or time to say goodbye.” Well, he assured me that the conversation was best left spoken in person. In the meantime though, he said that he took his profile off that site. He also continued to call and stay in close contact with me.

All along, I was thinking, why is it taking so long to talk about the subject?!? If you like me, you like me. And after all of this time, I really don’t want to be strung along, ya know!

A few weeks later, something in my gut told me to check that website. So I did.

Whaddya know…he was on there. In full view. Active.

What did I do? Said goodbye and good riddance.

Moral here? Don’t be silly like me and ignore those obvious signs signs signs…

Ladies: Check ‘em. Check the man and check your gut. I think both will lead you to the right place.
Men: Don’t string girls along. It’s just juvenile. If you want to play around with girls, then go back to the sandbox and stay there.