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There are 3 reasons a man won’t call back after a great date that I’ll share in this email according to the expert, Mr. Christian Carter. My comments are in red.

If you don’t know what they are, then you probably don’t really know how men think about dates and “dating.”

To get to the point…

Have you had a great date with a man and then he didn’t call back?

If so, you probably racked your brain trying to figure out what happened.

You had a great connection.

You had tons in common.

And the conversation was great and it really felt that “something” was there between you.

But then he just didn’t call.

What’s going on with men who do this?

First, I’ll share with you the 3 reasons a man doesn’t call after a great date.

Then I’m going to share with you 4 Tools you can use to either PREVENT this from happening to you, or know what to do when it does.

Ready?

Reason #1: “Irrational Preferences”

Have you ever been out on a date with a man and he was thoughtful, funny, maybe even charming…But there was just a little something about him that was off?  Happens all the time.

It might have been his hair, the funny face he made when he laughed, or the way he reacted when the waiter brought him the wrong dish.  Whatever it was, it stuck with you even though the rest of the date was great.

But now, if you thought about whatever it was that turned you off about him, you’d realize that it wasn’t really a big deal.  Actually, those “little” things can be a big deal. At times, it can ruin any and all attraction! But, that wouldn’t change the fact that the funny little quirk or irrational thing that stood out to you turned you off.

After the date, you didn’t know how to tell him, but you just weren’t interested in him in that way anymore.

He was a great guy, but not YOUR guy. True.

Well, men go through the same thing with women. True?

A man can be attracted to a woman, find her sweet and smart and interesting… but then that one little thing shows up and that’s it.

If a man doesn’t call you back after a great date, one reason is that he just found one of the little irrational things, and there’s not much you can do about it.

Reason #2: Timing

Men like to date, and date often.  We know.

When a man is single, and especially if he’s recently single… it doesn’t matter how great a woman is or how great the date goes.

If a man really likes you on a date, but the timing is wrong for him and he sees that you’re not a woman just to date and have fun with…then he’ll pull away.

It might sound strange… but if a man really likes you AND he respects you, he’ll pull away from you if he’s not ready or looking for a relationship.  Ok, I respect that.

Of course, men rarely, if ever, SAY that this is what they’re doing, or why.

They just stop calling. Now that’s the lame part.  That’s when I would say to just man up and call!

Unfortunately, you can’t do anything about it if this is what’s going on.

Reason #3: He Just Didn’t Feel That “Something”.  Women go through that all the time too, right ladies?  Such a difficult thing to explain.

You might have noticed that the first 2 reasons why a man doesn’t call back are things that you don’t have any CONTROL over.

The good news is that the third reason is something you can do something about.

I’ll explain it this way…

There have been several studies done on what the reasons are that a man falls in love and chooses his girlfriend or wife.

Of all the data, all the reasons men give, there’s one universal thing that men say is the reason they fell for, and chose, the woman they’re with.

Men explain it this way:

“She just had something special about her, and I felt so great around her.”

That might not sound profound at first, but when you understand what it means, you’ll see how important it is.

Let me translate what that means for you.

Men SAY that they want a woman who has certain characteristics, or looks, or is a certain way…

But, what it really comes down to is how a woman makes a man FEEL when he’s around her.  So I guess that means, if you like him, then you have to pay attention to his ego?

If you can make a man feel that magic feeling of ATTRACTION when he’s with you… and you create both, of what I call. Physical and Emotional Attraction, (attraction deeper than just a man’s physical desire)…

Then a man’s going to want to be around you and won’t be able to keep himself from calling you again.

When dating a man and in doubt, lead with attraction.

The question is… do you know what it is that creates that intense ATTRACTION inside a man that becomes the thing that tells him he wants you and only you?

While attraction seems like something hard to define, let alone create… there is actually a skill to knowing how to create it.  WHAT?  REALLY?  I WANT THE FORMULA!

Some women naturally get how to build that fun tension with a man that gets him excited (in the right ways), and has him wanting more…

While some women don’t seem to get it so naturally, or have a hard time and get in their own way when trying to connect with a man.

If you’ve met a man you like, and you share a connection, you know it could lead to something great…

There are 2 things you need to know:

1) You need to know how to lead the situation forward by creating and keeping the attraction going.

2) You need to know how to handle the different situations that ALWAYS come up in every new relationship as it moves forward.

Most women don’t seem to get that there’s a whole set of things that happen BEFORE you get into a committed relationship.  WHICH ARE….?

Most men don’t just suddenly jump into a fully committed relationship after a great date or two.

Most men want to get to know a woman, enjoy the dating process and feel comfortable having, what I call, an “Uncommitted Relationship.”

That’s a relationship that’s a bit more serious than just a few dates, but it’s not yet committed or exclusive.

This is the phase where “the wheels come off” for some women since there’s a lot of uncertainty that goes with this stage.  Yeah, because most women don’t want to be strung along.  Can I get a witness??!!!

If you want to move into a committed relationship with a man, then the reality is you have to spend time with him building things in the Uncommitted Relationship.

The question is… how do you handle yourself here?

I’ve found that for lots of women, it’s this ”in-between” phase where most of the problems come up that ruin what looked to be a good relationship.

I think I understand the verdict here…men take some time to be committed, while women don’t necessarily want to take that time.  Well maybe we ladies can reconsider that “in between” time without being strung along.  At the same time, guys, why string us along?

Men, is this true?

http://www.catchhimkeephim.com/MakeorBreak

I’ll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

Thanks Christian!

Before I say anything, watch this:

WOMEN HATE WOMEN!

Is he lying?

It’s riduculous, right?

Ladies, why is it that other women have the tendency to snub us? Seriously, it’s happened to me countless times, for no apparent reason it seems.

There have been too many days when I roll out of bed, don’t comb my hair, run errands looking like crap, pop into a clothing store for a sec, and the sales chicks refuse to greet me or offer to help even though they’re not busy.

What’s up with that?  You’d think that they’d at least want to make some money, right?

I was at a wedding recently when an old-school guy-friend introduced me to his lady. What did she do?  She said “hi” and walked away. Didn’t reach out to shake my hand or say anything else to me.

On top of that, I’ve had female flight attendants blatantly ignore my requests.  I’ve had female acquaintances enter my apartment without saying a word to me.  Most commonly, if I’m waiting at the bar with my girlfriends, it’s likely that a female bartender would ignore us, or take FOREVER to act like she notices us waiting.

It’s not just me or my group of friends.  I’ve heard the same from women everywhere!  Women are so freaking caddy.  Tune in to the “Real Housewives” if you want to know what I’m talking about.

Some of the reasons I’ve heard women act like this:

*Insecurity

*She’s afraid you’ll take her man

*Jealous

*She’s threatened by your personality.

One piece of advice I’ve heard:  “If you’re a woman even remotely attractive, you have to disarm another lady with a smile”.

OK, fine.  I’m not even saying that I think I’m remotely attractive.  But in my opinion, a woman who acts like this is pathetic, I’m sorry.

Anyone think anything different?  Bring it!

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So I just noticed that everyone is publishing some type of woman’s guide to “catch” a good man.

The time old question a woman always asks herself is, “Why didn’t he call me back?” Trust me, I’ve been there too and I’m just as clueless as the next chick.  I’ve yet to read some of these books, but I’ve heard many of the authors on TV discuss some of the main points.  There are some UNIVERSAL rules that a girl needs to follow.  If you’re wondering what they are, refer to my previous post, particularly point #5

http://www.yourdatingtales.com/2009/05/05/want-a-good-man-then-dont/

DO NOT sleep with him on the first date. That is a sure-fire way that he won’t call back, unless it’s for another hook-up. And that advice isn’t coming from me–I’ve heard that from these authors on TV.

As far as any other reasons he wouldn’t call back…I’d love to hear suggestions so if ya got ‘em, send ‘em!

You’ll be doing a good deed for woman-kind

I remember a few years ago I was over this girl house and was chilling over there watching TV.  I heard the door bell ring…well you never who showed up.  It was a guy who tried to robb me a few years back!  That was the end of that relationship…

Fast quick story Philly is a small city got to watch what you do to other people in life you never know when you are goin to see them again.

From DMOBILE215

OK, this isn’t directly related to dating…

Or maybe it is.

I once dated a guy who was “afraid” to walk around with me in the the Castro district of San Francisco because he didn’t want to be approached by a gay guy.  GIMME A FREAKING BREAK!  He was a homo-phobe and you better believe I dropped his a** real quick!

Likewise, if a guy I meet voted “yes” on Prop 8–that means he has a problem with gay marriage–then he’s out the door, I’m sorry.

In fact, that will now be one of the first questions I ask a guy when I meet him! (Stay tuned for the list of telling questions I ALWAYS ask a guy.)

Why do straight people get so freaked out?  What’s the problem?

I can understand if gay rights impose on everyone else’s rights.  But they don’t.

Oh wait, but they can have a Civil Union….which is passively-aggressively saying that gay people are entitled to “less than” everyone else who has the right to marry.

Ridiculous.

And even if gays did obtain the right to marry, it’s not like they’d be taking anything away from straight people.

Conservatives, don’t even breath this liberal airspace!

So the verdict is in.  It’s unanimous…

We like the CUT version. Men, women, period.

This past weekend, I was in deep conversation with a few of my new urbanized friends:  Nick from Laguna Beach, Chili V from FiDi, and in Davey D from La Mission.  Such a motley crew they were.  And yes, the conversation was real.  It was raw.  It was hilarious.  We somehow started about male circumcision, and all of the controversy I stirred up with my recent post.

My two cents were these:  “Aren’t there hygiene issues associated with not being circumcised?”

Chili V from FiDi knew it best:  “Have you ever smelled an uncut penis? Trust me, if it don’t smell good, it won’t taste good!”

EWWWWWW!!!!

Nick’s response:  “DUDE!  That’s disgusting.  No foreskin, no five-skin, no six-skin! NO NO NO!” Nick from Laguna even recited a true story of a woman leaving a guy because she couldn’t get over the turtleneck the dude was sportin’.

Davey D’s was perplexed.  “I can’t imagine a body odor coming from a guy’s johnson.  That’s just weird.”

Listen, I’m no expert.  Nor do I want to be.  But the votes are in and sorry guys!  We like the cut version better!

If you need help figuring it out, refer to the images below.

But WAIT WAIT WAIT! Women weren’t off the hook either.  Speaking of uncut, La Mission’s Davey D led us into the conversation about a woman’s natural born-ness.

We’re talking about the vajay-a-jay… SHAVE IT!

There’s nothing more disgusting than seeing a woman’s you know what that’s not taken care of.  Ladies, you gotta make the cut!

In Davey D’s words: “The natural look on a woman just isn’t good”.

We couldn’t agree more.

There’s a lot more from this conversation so stay tuned…

So I was chatting with one of my girlfriends this weekend and we started to talk about the C-word…

Not what you think.

Circumcise.

We don’t understand why there are some adult men that still aren’t circumcised!

And fine, fine.  It’s not up to a baby boy whether or not he’s gonna have the operation.  But a guy can make the decision as an adult.  So why doesn’t he?  Better late than never, right???

Really, not to disrespect uncircumcised men, but I can honestly say from first hand experience that it’s a turn-off…For me and for every other woman I’ve talked to.

Frankly, it seems like it would be more “painful” not to get the operation.  Is the guy not self-conscious all his life?

We’ll probably need the male perspective on it.  But from the WPOV (women’s point of view), ew, ew, ew.

If size matters at all, then believe that being circumcised matters for sure.

Hey Y’all,

My fingers are doin a lot of work ;0

If YOU HAVE YOUR OWN RULES TO ADD, BRING THEM ON!

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