When Is It OK to Go Dutch? NEVER.
Posted on : 18-11-2009 | By : Single in SF City | In : LOL!, Never Again!, Tips, WTF?!
OK, ok, ok. “Never” is a little extreme. But guys: If you’re interested in a girl AT ALL, do not attempt to go dutch. Dutch is reserved for strictly platonic relationships!
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again: ALLOWING A WOMAN TO PAY FOR HERSELF is the BIGGEST FAUX PAUX in the game!
Let me give you a couple of examples:
I remember a while back, a guy invited me on a date. He lived in Oakland and wanted to meet me half way (HUGE RED FLAG THERE, but I went along). Next thing I knew, he wanted me to meet him in the parking lot of Borders. Yes, the book store.
What?
Next thing after that? Parking at Borders is $1.00, so “Make sure you bring your dollar to park.” That’s what he told me.
HUH?
I have to admit, once he said that, I had to kick him to the curb. I wasn’t so tactful about it either; I simply flaked on him. (NOT THE WAY TO BEHAVE EITHER, LADIES). That was years ago 
Another example:
A guy recently invited me dancing and when we arrived at the door, he only paid for himself. I should have caught the clue when he asked me to pick him up and drive to the place.
WTF?
I had no idea this was a dutch thing. Since I had to pay for myself, I wasn’t sticking around him that night. I danced the night away with the real men who asked me to dance.
Since then, he’s asked me again to go dancing. I’ve politely declined.
Big lesson here: Guys, allowing a girl to even dip into her purse sends the STRONG MESSAGE: “LET’S JUST BE FRIENDS.”
So if that’s what you want, then by all means, go for it
Don't let this happen to you!
thats a little unfair, some girls refuse to let you pay for them in the beginning
That’s what I’ve heard. So I hear you.
I think that women need to realize the message they’re sending when they pay those first few dates. If that is how they want to set the stage for the long run, then by all means, that’s fine
Just saw this. I think a girl should always offer. If the guy takes her up on it, chalk it up as a lesson learned and voila.
If someone asks to borrow 20 dollars and you never see them again, it was probably worth it.