Interracial + Dating = Friction (A Post from San Francisco’s Johnny)
Posted on : 11-07-2009 | By : Single in SF City | In : Tips, WHOOP WHOOP!
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Back when I was a pup, I dated a african american woman that was very hot. Living in the bay area, and, being white and clueless/colorblind, I had NO IDEA what was in store for me. In the city, no one really cared. if we went to the burb’s like /Richmond or El Cerrito, the brothers were hating big time. I just didn’t get it, but, once I did start to get it, I noticed different behaviors all around.
White chicks, black chicks, black dudes, white guys and everyone in between, all were very interested/shocked/pissed off at this mixed race couple in front of them.
My biggest mistake??? Just to show how clueless I really was, I took her to New Orleans for Mardi Gras!!! Holy shit, the names she was called, the names I was called. Major eye-opening experience. Ultimately, our relationship didn’t work out, no doubt, in part due to our different races and the “friction” that said relationship caused. I just looked at her as an attractive person, others looked at me as an invader/thief.
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Hi Johnny,
Thanks so much for your tale! Props to you for your independence.
I can totally relate to your experience. I had an interracial dating experience that was full of ups and downs. Surprisingly, the weird reactions weren’t so much from the public, but more from his family and friends.
They were very narrow-minded people.
So would you do it again?
Yeah, I would do it again in a heartbeat. Didn’t I mention that she was HOT????
Yes, I am a shallow bastard.
Nothing shallow about dating a hottie.
Were you at least getting props from your friends???
Yeah, they all thought she was a major score – so did the family. I wasn’t dating her for other people’s appreciation/acceptance though, I had only had my own best interests in mind.
Her family wasn’t trippin, mainly because I wasn’t the first honky to walk through the door. The older folks in my fam tripped for a bit, but once again, that was my fault. My fam all met her for the first time, no less, at my brother’s wedding. After the initial shock was over, though, they all got to know her and liked her.
OMG, how funny.
I know what you mean about the family being shocked. I had a similar experience at a wedding with that guy I was dating.
EVERYONE was staring at me.
He didn’t get it. He tried to tell me that they were staring because I was pretty.
But I knew that was bullsh*t.
lol, I guess he was as clueless as I was!
Well, clueless can be an OK thing at first. But my dating issue was that this guy never stopped being clueless. He couldn’t see anything with his eyes wide open!
I’m currently in an interracial relationship – white guy dating a Chinese woman – and I haven’t had any problems from my family or hers. People on the street don’t give us dirty looks, either, except in one place: (you guessed it) Chinatown.
I see a lot of white guys and Asian women together, even in Chinatown. So don’t let those dirty looks trip you out.
Is her family cool with you being white?
Rather interesting. Has few times re-read for this purpose to remember. Thanks for interesting article. Waiting for trackback
I think that the most important thing in developing relationships is mutual understanding, I don’t think cultural differences matter that much,but I understand that there can be culture clashes.
I agree with you to a point….
But from my experience, sometimes cultural differences can seriously get in the way.
If the two parties involved can get past it (which they usually can), then it can be a serious issue of dealing with friends and family who CAN’T get past it.
You really gotta be liberal-minded and willing to say f*** it if the family/friends don’t like who you choose.
Did you have an interracial dating experience?
society doesn’t give two shits about anyone’s “mutual understanding.” there are loads of pressure in every direction, unless of course, you are on an island.
Amen to that! Society don’t give a sh*t!
I dated a Costa Rican girl and would get strange looks from spanish folk all the time, like “What’s she doing with that gringo?”
Really? White guy and Latina?
I would think that people would be looking at you like, “You’re the MAN!”.
I don’t know.
Back when I was dating a white guy, guys would walk up to him all the time and give him props.
Yeah, i got that too. that is odd, though, complete strangers making judgments about your significant other? Like, who the fuck are you to tell me your fucking opinion, like I give a shit about a strangers opinion. Step-off.
Now I do not care.
I like your style. I wish more guys had your bravado.
yeah, I am a real catch!!!
I would like more white girls and latinas. But most dont dig on the asian brothers.
Really? Well maybe you’ll have to head south of the border (seriously). I think American chicks care about those things, but whenever I’m in another country, it always looks like anything goes
That is just ignorant for people to do that. I don’t think it is that weird for people from different races want to date each other since I have friends who do, and my sister as well. You can Start Love with anyone you want. Maybe the problem is just the area where you live. I’ve never seen or heard of any problems with my friends so maybe it does have to do with location!
Yeah…liberal location = liberal relationships. If I lived in the South, I wouldn’t dare attempt to date outside of my race. I personally believe that love transcends all races. Ignorant people should go hide under a rock somewhere.
I’ll take your word on that